Welcome!
Hello and thank you for visiting my website. My name is Mike Resh and I am an elementary school counselor and first time children's book author. I am excited about my new journey of writing stories that capture real issues from the elementary school world. I hope my stories will provide those that work with young children with tools to teach and support. For those children that read directly, I hope they use them as an outlet or connection to move in a positive, forward direction in all they do to be happy and successful!
Please enjoy exploring my page and I appreciate any feedback you may have about Dneirf and any of my future books!
Please enjoy exploring my page and I appreciate any feedback you may have about Dneirf and any of my future books!
How Dneirf Came To Be:
After my first year as an elementary school counselor, I took time to reflect on how things went and lessons learned. One thing stood out immediately to me, the amount of time spent educating and sorting through incidents reported as “Bullying.” The Buzz of Bullying in the media and community although great for bringing awareness to a problem, caused another problem in itself in creating a word that is almost as much of a problem as the act itself. What I learned was that kids did not know how to handle conflict on their own and not every social issue was an act of bullying. However, parents and even kids used this word almost as an escape solution to fix problems or rather have them fixed by others (adults) at the fear of not handling a “bullying situation.” What this did do was cause an even greater gap of kids being unable to think and act for themselves, which ultimately leads to them turning into adults who can not do the same in their futures. Much of my time was spent being a mediator between kids and helping them with self-awareness of their own actions. You did “A” so “C” happened…what else could you have done so that “B” could have happened? Dneirf grew out of the idea of escaping the labeling of “bullying” and focusing rather on behavior and behavioral change that is normal in social relationships. Dneirf is not meant to be another “label” or “buzzword” but rather a means to bring light to another possible reason for social conflict that is more conducive with cause/effect of friendships problems for young children.
After my first year as an elementary school counselor, I took time to reflect on how things went and lessons learned. One thing stood out immediately to me, the amount of time spent educating and sorting through incidents reported as “Bullying.” The Buzz of Bullying in the media and community although great for bringing awareness to a problem, caused another problem in itself in creating a word that is almost as much of a problem as the act itself. What I learned was that kids did not know how to handle conflict on their own and not every social issue was an act of bullying. However, parents and even kids used this word almost as an escape solution to fix problems or rather have them fixed by others (adults) at the fear of not handling a “bullying situation.” What this did do was cause an even greater gap of kids being unable to think and act for themselves, which ultimately leads to them turning into adults who can not do the same in their futures. Much of my time was spent being a mediator between kids and helping them with self-awareness of their own actions. You did “A” so “C” happened…what else could you have done so that “B” could have happened? Dneirf grew out of the idea of escaping the labeling of “bullying” and focusing rather on behavior and behavioral change that is normal in social relationships. Dneirf is not meant to be another “label” or “buzzword” but rather a means to bring light to another possible reason for social conflict that is more conducive with cause/effect of friendships problems for young children.
